With the recent Southern California fires just getting under control, feelings of loss, sadness, and devastation remain understandably heavy on the hearts of so many. Accompanying this weight is also the desire for comfort. That easing of painful feelings. Some relief from all the grief.
While these fire events have been extremely traumatic, the wish for relief does not only arise during difficult times, but on a regular basis. Comfort plays an important part in keeping us well. Physical or psychological, this state of being is synonymous with serenity and tranquility. This craving is hardwired into our brains as a means of survival. And it is not just a want, it is a need. When we are at ease, feel-good hormones are released that reduce stress and improve mind and body function.
From my journal: January 20, 2025, Newbury Park, California
“Been working on this year’s Vision Board…helps me feel less stressed… takes my mind off the fires, the sadness, the worry…”
Imperative for good health, solace comes in many forms and takes on different shapes. When I think of comfort, the first things that come to mind are the basics. Food, shelter, and clothing. Nothing makes me feel more cared for than savoring homemade soup. Tomato, chicken zoodle, or a rich veggie soup. Often foods that cheer us are ones we remember from childhood. For me, that would be an ooey gooey grilled cheese sandwich. Comfort on a plate. Comfort in a bowl.
Lately, I am acutely aware of how much our home means to me. It is one of our greatest sources of safety, protection, and security. It offers physical, mental and emotional well-being. From our furniture to our soothing-colored walls, and our soft furnishings, all help reduce daily stress and hold us when we need a break from the outside world. When I plunk down into my green, low to the floor, swivel chair and look out the window, I immediately begin to unwind. Clothing is also essential in making us feel good. Our chosen clothes shield us from the elements, boost our confidence, and allow for self-expression. Among my favorite leisure clothes are my well-worn PJ sets. Recently, I’ve been tossing a pair into the dryer before slipping them on. A little extra warmth. A little extra comfort.
Over the last few weeks, we’ve sought to console family and friends affected by the fires and in return we’ve been consoled. Social comfort is so important in promoting the feeling of belonging and letting us know we are not alone in whatever we are going through. Reaching out and checking in, lets others know how much we care and in turn this love comes back to us. Another comfort I’ve felt very strongly recently is spiritual. Praying for others, and others praying for us.
Seeking ways to comfort ourselves and others is essential to our physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual health. For those who have lost their homes, belongings, businesses, and communities here, and for those in need of relief from grief anywhere, may you find some comfort and some peace.
A Journal Journey 